I have a daughter, aged 3, who likes to paint her nails and wear pretty clothes that make her look like a princess, she talks about getting married and on the weekend she flatly refused to wear anything other than a dress to a football party. My son at 3 just liked to play outside in mud and puddles, make robots and build sandcastles. He could not have cared less what he looked like. We tell my daughter all the time she is pretty. Are we storing up trouble? Tanith Carey’s book Where has My Little Girl Gone? (Lion) was released this weekend with great reviews.
It is a book that clearly voices the concerns we have for our daughters and the constant messages they get about looks and sexuality even from a young age. She talks ablout them being fast tracked through childhood. Even primary age girls obsessing about being thin. It’s worrying stuff.
Tanith however never leaves a problem hanging. have your read her marvellous parenting book How to be an amazing mum? It is one of my favourite parening books so solution focussed …….it is packed with great tips!
Her ‘Little Girl Gone’ book is packed with the same spirit of positivity and resolve. She has some very practical tips around limiting damaging messages from TV and the media. (I’m NOW thinking Dora not Barbie and National Geographic magazines for kids not just pink sparkly make up gift set ones.)
My favourite bit of this book is where Tanith discusses how self esteem and communictaion are your child s best defence. She is absolutley right. I used to deliver training about resilience and child development and Tanith’s ideas for building a childs send of worth are excellent and based on sound research. Helping others, belonging to youth groups outside of school, having an activity to seek solace in, keeping family rituals and knowing their roots are all put forward as resilent factors. All great stuff to build a solid foundation of pide and self awareness that has nothing to do with materialsim, popularity or sexuality.
Tanith has lots of ideas to support parenting girls in this book and I love her tips around clothing too. She suggests complaining to the shops who sell ‘sexy’ clothing for kids, teaching children about sweatshops and throwaway fashion , avoiding designer labels, leading by example, teaching our daughters to sew. In regard to make up she says turn an inteerst in make up into an interest in craft, don’t keep on about prettiness or how attractice your daughter will be in the future. Dont give make up as gifts in partybags, and set a good example be going barefaced and proud now and agin..
All straightforward practical and powerful.
It’s a fab book dealing with significant issues that affect our daughters. It is well reaserched and challenging. It looks at pop music, pornography, tv, facebook, mobile phones and peer pressues in fact all the the pwoerful influnecs ofn our children.
Mums and dads arm yourself with this book and fight the good fight to protect your girls.
Well done Tanith this an excllent tool.
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