Men and Sexcuses
It is accepted that busy mums often could not care less about sex and come up with plenty of sexcuses. However, recent research by Ukmedix claims that men are coming up with plenty of ‘sexcuses’ too.
The most common sexcuses from men were:
Men and sexcuses – no fun! Here is why they say they are not up for it
too tired (45%), work stress (39%), headache (33%), eaten too much (29%) something good on TV (24%).
Sorry I am too busy levitating to have sex and I have a headache and I had a hard day at the office…
Photo Credit: Kevin N Murphy
How to tackle Sexcuses
UKMedix (who sell Viagra online) have a forum all about sexual difficulties on their site and they declare that they know that what men say when it comes to sex isn’t always the real reason. They believe underlying a lot of these excuses is a lack of erectile function confidence. Interesting. Men find that such an embarrassing problem they make up all sorts of other excuses all of which can make their partners feel frustrated and needy and stressed ..so we get on their case and stress them further and it all goes pear-shaped.
Problems shared are indeed problems halved and solutions could be both practical (Viagra, fitness, medical exam) or emotional (relationship therapy, counselling, massage, aromatherapy, reflexology)
Men and sexcuses
I think it’s important to try and keep fun and romance in your relationship and challenge men and sexcuses
How about these thrifty romance rekindlers to stop mean and sexcuses in their tracks…
Farm the kids out to grandparents for the weekend
Make their favourite meal and serve with a lovely glass or 2 of wine
Followed by a cool candlelit bath and a slow massage
With your favourite music
Cheap as chips but a definite mood alterer and if nothing else a lovely time together.
It certainly might stop the sexcuses!!
How about trying Blue lotus tea – early research suggest it might be useful as nuciferine in the plant may help sexual performance. You can either make it yourself or buy blue lotus tea bags!
Men and sexcuses is a feature post – you might also like my post on tips for talking about challenging behaviours
